Are Two Lovers Better Than One?

Monogamy is a widely accepted and thoroughly expected way for civilized people to behave within a relationship. In some cultures it is completely acceptable to have relationships with multiple partners. Even in these freer relationships there are still some things that constitute cheating or betrayal. The only relationships that don’t seem to have these boundaries are the ones for which an agreement exists between all of the people in involved that it is ok to act on any impulse to be intimate with other people. But even in these relationships there are certain rules of disclosure and other rules that they have to abide by.

Those people, who are happy and satisfied in relationships that allow for them to be intimate with someone other than their partner, seem to prove that it is not always a hurtful situation. They are saying that having more than one lover at a time does not always translate into cheating. Obviously these relationships exist because the people in them feel that the benefits of them far outweigh any jealousy they might experience or social conditioning they may have learned.

Cheaters are people who will not freely admit to wanting this type of life style, but seek it out secretly. A lot of cheaters say that they are only doing what everybody else is doing or wants to do. People who have multiple partners, openly or in secret, all agree that their lovers complement each other, in other words, what one of the lovers is lacking, the other provides.
Obviously having two people who are totally into you can be pretty appealing for these and so many other reasons:

Having two people to call your own would mean that there would not be a moment when you wanted or needed to talk to somebody and had to wait because your partner was busy.
If you were fighting with one of the people you are seeing and were too mad to have sex with them, you wouldn’t have to go without sex completely.

If you happen to be one those people who require a lot of attention and affection to thrive, you could be getting half of what you need from both people and not seem needy at all.

Chances are you will not find somebody who is into everything you are, but if you date two people, you can basically do what you like to do all the time and still give both people their own free time to do what they like.

Gifts are great, now imagine two sets of birthday, Christmas, Valentine’s day, and just because, gifts.

If all of this seems too good to be true that’s because it is. With the lying, cheating, and the pure exhaustion of trying to lead a double life, this maybe one of those things are better left in our fantasies.